Death is a universal reality that unites all of humanity, regardless of culture, religion, or social status. It is the final chapter in every human life, yet its certainty often inspires people to reflect on how they live their lives. In the face of death’s inevitability, the meaning of life becomes a pressing question. One profound answer to that question lies in the human capacity to care for one another. Kindness, compassion, and support for others not only give meaning to our lives but also allow us to leave a lasting impact beyond our own existence.
Understanding death encourages humility. It is a reminder that our time is finite, and that every moment we spend angry, bitter, or self-centered is a moment lost. When we acknowledge that we are here for only a limited time, our priorities begin to shift. The pursuit of wealth, power, or status often fades in significance, and what emerges instead is the value of relationships, empathy, and love. We begin to realize that how we treat others is perhaps the most important legacy we leave behind.
Living for others does not mean sacrificing our individuality or suppressing our own needs. Rather, it is about recognizing our interconnectedness. Every act of kindness, no matter how small, sends ripples through the lives of others. A comforting word, a helping hand, or simply listening to someone in pain can transform a moment of despair into one of hope. These gestures create a world in which people feel valued, understood, and not alone.
In many ways, death brings clarity. It teaches us that the pain of loss is often soothed not by grand gestures but by simple acts of support. When someone passes away, it is the presence of friends and family, the shared memories, and the support of the community that help the grieving move forward. This is a reflection of our deepest human need—to be seen, to be heard, and to be loved. We cannot stop death, but we can ease the burden of life by being kind and supportive to those around us.
The idea of living for others is deeply rooted in many religious and philosophical traditions. In Christianity, for example, the commandment to “love thy neighbor as thyself” is a central tenet. Buddhism emphasizes compassion and the alleviation of suffering. In African communal philosophies such as Ubuntu, the belief is that “I am because we are,” highlighting that our humanity is defined by our relationships with others.
From the Islamic perspective, both death and the need to live for others are central themes. The Qur’an states, “Every soul shall taste death” (Surah Al-Imran, 3:185), reminding believers that life is temporary and should be spent in preparation for the eternal hereafter. Islam teaches that the best preparation for death is not only prayer and worship but also living a life of service, kindness, and compassion.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “Be in this world as though you were a stranger or a traveler” (Sahih Bukhari), a reminder of our brief stay on earth. He also said, “Allah is kind and loves kindness in all matters” (Sahih Muslim), and even described a smile as an act of charity. These teachings elevate everyday kindness into acts of spiritual significance.
A particularly powerful concept in Islam is Sadaqah Jariyah—ongoing charity. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) taught that when a person dies, their deeds end except for three: ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge, and a righteous child who prays for them (Sahih Muslim). This highlights that living for others is the highest order of service to humanity.These traditions remind us that true fulfillment does not come from isolation or selfish gain but from our ability to uplift and care for one another.
Furthermore, in the face of death, kindness becomes a form of resistance—a way of asserting that love and goodness still matter. When someone chooses to be kind, especially in a world that can often be harsh and indifferent, it is a powerful statement. It is saying, “Despite everything, I choose to make things better for someone else.” This choice becomes even more meaningful when we understand that we may not have another chance. Every day offers an opportunity to be someone’s source of light in the darkness.
Many people who have faced the loss of a loved one often find purpose in helping others. This is not just a coping mechanism; it is a testament to the idea that love does not end with death. It transforms. Parents who lose a child may start a foundation in their name. Friends who lose someone to illness may raise awareness or funds for research. These acts of kindness carry the memory of the deceased forward, ensuring that their lives continue to make a difference.
Living for others also means being present. In our fast-paced, digitally connected world, it is easy to overlook the people right in front of us. Genuine support often comes not from grand plans but from paying attention, from noticing when someone is struggling and choosing to care. Being present is an act of kindness in itself. It says, “You matter. I see you.” These moments of connection are often what people remember most, especially when time runs out.Support can take many forms—emotional, physical, financial, or simply moral. Sometimes, supporting others means standing up for them, advocating for justice, or creating space for their voices to be heard. Other times, it means sitting silently beside someone who is grieving. The key is empathy—putting ourselves in others’ shoes and responding with humanity. Such support builds stronger families, resilient communities, and a more compassionate world.Moreover, living kindly and supportively for others enhances our own lives. Research shows that people who practice kindness and altruism experience greater happiness, lower stress, and improved mental health. Helping others gives a sense of purpose and fulfillment that material success alone cannot offer. In a paradoxical way, by focusing on others, we enrich ourselves. The more love we give, the more we feel it within us.In facing death, some may feel fear or sadness, but others find motivation to live more deeply and meaningfully. Knowing that life is short pushes us to make every interaction count. We may not have control over how or when we die, but we do have control over how we live and how we treat others. That power is both a responsibility and a gift.
When one understudy the life and death of Chief Elite Jamiu Diekola Onaolapo of the Egbinola Pharmacy, Oranyan Ibadan who returned to his creator on the best Day on earth, Day of Arafat, Thursday 5th June, 2025 it will remain a lesson for others to have a rethink of this ephemeral life and live for others.
In conclusion, death, far from being only an end, is also a teacher. It reminds us of the fragility and beauty of life. It challenges us to ask what kind of mark we want to leave behind. And in answering that question, we are guided to a life of kindness and support. Living for others—through compassion, presence, and care—is not only noble but necessary. It is the truest way to honor the lives we touch and the finite time we are given. Through our actions, we can ensure that even though we all must die, we live on in the love we have shown and the lives we have uplifted.
Baba Chief Elite Jamiu Diekola Onaolapo was the Chairman Board of Trustees, Oluyole Social Elites Club Ibadan and member of the Central Council of Ibadan Indigenes Board of Trustees.
May Allah accept his return and admit him unconditionally into the best level of Aljannah. Ameen
